Family Secrets

Thankyou Kate Motuang for mailing me this fantastic Five minute Friday link. Your word this time is Experience, I write 5 min flat, here goes:

Family Secrets

I admit of late, (with not much prior experience to saying such a thing), I now like the thing, I like cooking. Not a twinge in my bones warned me of this change, this betrayal of who I used to be.

Last month I found my Ma’s cookbook called Family Secrets; she’s written it all down there, I can smell her curry leaf seasoning, her tomato pickle in the window sill, her garden coriander leaf and onion gold fried in black bottomed pan;

my dad said that pan had nine lives, it never died.

I do not have Ma’s pan but I am changing, like my face in the mirror, like my hands that could not take cold water, or luke warm. Now I don’t need anything ‘just so’, just the aroma of veggie chopped cubes in slow stir; oh the experience, again of mint chutney we grew to love, all spluttery with mustard seed in coconut oil and tiny steel bowl served on dining table in veranda next to the kitchen. We lived by the sea, once on a mountain, an island, she always grew a garden, I have my own: sea shells in pots and Lime bonsai… those little green mint leaf? They spike lemon these days.

Flavors we once knew, they return in new ways. How d’you experience the same heart beat, in new rhythm… I cannot know, but its here.

I’m my Ma, a piece of her. I now love well- polished glasses, tinkly spoons. I never used to. Never admired wheat pure home-made breads in tiny warm basket, not just to eat but to serve. I’m changing, that’s for sure. It must be Time 😃!

Last night after the last dish went in and the moon was a full circle of cool warm shade in our window, a bird chirped full- throat, right in my pulse…I felt it, Life. In its simplicities. No fuss, nah no frill, just the old Order giving way to New. Like an old Prayer whispered all over again,

like tender mercies new every morning; I’m experiencing the everlasting Faithfulness of God.


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6 responses to “Family Secrets”

  1. Oh, food holds so many precious memories.. What a blessing to be a daughter who values the legacy of her Mum in different areas of your life. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. This was so beautiful and evocative. I can definitely relate to the idea of changing with age.

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  3. It is a universal experience to realize that we are all products of our parents… I sometimes hear my mother’s voice coming out of my mouth!

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  4. So beautiful especially your remembrances of your mother through smells and the pan. Really lovely work. Love 💕 Joni. Many blessings to you my friend.

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  5. It’s beautiful, the way that we become part of this cycle. I once lamented the many family members I never knew, and the ones I have lost (and keep losing). But now getting older it so happens I am becoming part of them, I am growing into parts of them.

    Thank you for the beautiful words

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    1. ‘I am growing into parts of them….’ that’s so well put and true. Absolutely. Thank you for saying 🌻

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